Letting Others In
I love to read. I thank my dear mother, who passed away in 2008, for instilling that adoration in me. She would go to the library and check out at…
Calm Down, Move On, Get Over It?
Unexpectedly losing a loved one is hard to understand if you haven’t been through it yourself. It’s hard to describe but I’ll try using a scene from Jaws. I was…
Suicide in Teens and Children
Loss by Suicide in Teens and Children has been heavy on my heart recently as I have seen some close friends suffering these losses. I have been asking myself many…
Honor Your Loved One During COVID-19
Burying a loved one is hard enough and now we cannot celebrate their life with family and friends? I remember the day that my son, Ben, passed away. We had…
Grieving Uncertainty
I’m not sure what I’m feeling. It’s very much like grief and has taken me back to the months that followed after my son, Ben Koier, passed away. It’s this…
GUILT
“We love our children above all else and we never do anything to intentionally harm them.” (Revised words of wisdom from my mom that if she had been living she would have…
My Last Day with William
William and I shared a special day that I am so grateful for in so many ways. Being with William on this rainy day filled me with hope for my…
Who Will Be Next?
I didn’t know much about grief when my son, Ben, passed away. I certainly have learned a lot over the past eight years. Something I didn’t expect from our loss…
Relationships
There is no way that two people have the exact same relationship with a third. This is evident when people grieve the death of child or another loved one. A…
Survivor?
The master of ceremonies at the banquet for fallen heroes repeated his request for the third time for survivors to: “please stand up.” Finally, I reluctantly stood. It had been…